Feels More Like Work

I'm off of work for a week on what is supposed to be vacation, but it's more like a really extended weekend. I am a bit disappointed that I didn't plan anything to do, and taking time off while everyone is working has left me with only solo options for entertainment. I know there's nothing wrong with going to see a movie alone, but to me it is just not that enjoyable. These days alone is the last thing I want to do, especially when there are people in my life I actually want to spend time with.

I say a lot that I don't like people, but after the dream I had last night I don't think that is a fair statement. I actually really enjoy the company of those I care about. I am afraid I've pushed people away going through all the change over the past several months. I am worried I'll wake up one day and have no one in my life because I've shut everyone out. 

Today I am going to finish packing, work out, take myself to lunch and visit my new apartment. It is not a big place. Not lavish, or grand. It is small, humble, understated, historic, has some wear but all giving it character and charm. I think my new place is a lot like me. It doesn't need much, doesn't pretend to be anything it is not, and just wants to be loved and seen as beautiful for what it is. 

I can't wait to move. Both physically and mentally into a better head space. I woke up questioning a hell of a lot in my life right now. Thinking about what I have versus what I deserve. About what I share and what is shared with me. I feel like most of the time I put it all out there and am going to stop over sharing. I feel like there are people in my life I share too much with and those I don't share enough. I'm sure a good portion of my anxious worry can be attributed to the move this week, but it is also because I stopped to feel. There are some people in my life I wish would let me in more. Or be more expressive. No more over sharing for me. No more putting it all out there. I will put out what I get back and over time grow to know and understand. 

Today is supposed to be vacation, but it feels more like work. 

Dragging Ass and Taking Names

I'm exhausted this morning. Really dragging ass. It was one of those nights where it felt like I slept for only an hour. However, I am not too tired to be excited that after today I am off from work for a week. I am really looking forward to this time to sleep a bit more and hopefully have a little bit of fun. I am going to have to dedicate some time to school work and moving, which I know sounds like a lot, but I really want to make a conscious effort to put my phone down and have fun.

I remember as a kid I looked forward to vacation and the holidays. I used to get so excited for time away from school and would count down the days until vacation began. Even if I was doing nothing but spending time outside playing in the neighborhood, I was still excited for the free time and the possibilities. Every year I looked forward to the holidays, especially Thanksgiving and New Years. I really enjoyed the feeling of the holiday spirit; the time with family and friends and all the delicious food. There was a certain electricity that came with the family getting together for the holidays and as I got older the feelings of family and friends became even more important. When my dad passed away everything changed. The Jewish holidays in particular were no longer celebrated. Thanksgiving with my side of the family became practically nonexistent. Every year from his passing on forward Thanksgiving and Christmas were celebrated with my ex's family. I lost touch of my own.

This year I have even less excitement or anticipation for the holidays. I feel a great void when it comes to my family and find myself still wishing things had gone differently. I know that wishing for something like that does no one any good. Stomping my foot on the ground and yelling "ITS NOT FAIR" is not an option for a 31 year old adult. But it isn't fair. Life is really not fair.

This year I am also alone. The Jewish holidays were hard enough. Since I did not create a family of my own, I have no children to share in the joys of the holiday. Since I am no longer married, I have no spouse to ring in the new year with. Since I have no siblings, there is no house full of familiar faces to share Thanksgiving dinner with. I will have to learn how to have a holiday on my own. Make it in my own way.

I know this blog entry was originally about my vacation, but it is hardly that. I can't exactly call it a vacation because I still have all this on my mind. It is like a mental break. It is a short period of time to disappear, get things done, and be with those I care about and forget the upcoming holidays that really get me down. It is a much needed break in the chaos.

I am really dragging ass today. But I will get through it and get everything accomplished so I can disappear into my five days off, getting lost in time with those I enjoy and moving into a calmer, happier place. Today I am dragging ass and taking names.