Wayne Dyer recently posted on Facebook this quote above and
said that the holidays are a good time to focus on reconnecting with the spirit
of love and living life to the fullest. Making a personal promise to live life
in a more meaningful way will make each moment more enjoyable and we should
approach life with a child-like awe and appreciation for its beauty.
This really resonates with me, and is something I often try
to do. It is so easy to get wrapped up in the daily drama and be blinded by
material and surface issues that often leave us forgetting about the small
miracles that happen each day. It is so easy to get suck on selfish thoughts
and so absorbed in our own lives that we forget what is important to those
around us that we care about.
I read what Dyer wrote last night and found myself wishing
more people did exactly what he was saying. I wish more people could get out of
their own concern long enough to remember things that are important to other
people like a first day at a new job, or a big meeting they were nervous to
have, and take time to make sure that person knows they are being thought of. I
wish people cared more and recognized that a quick text, a phone call on an
important day, or even the simple act of remembering something someone told
them goes a hell of a long way to another person.
But the most difficult challenge is not accepting the fact
that people can be selfish and often forget what is important to others
unintentionally, it is making sure you do not change how you behave in spite of it all. There
are times when I want to refrain from reaching out to someone just because they
have forgotten to ask me how something went when they knew I was going to do
something I was scared to do. I realize it is petty of me to think like that,
but after a while I feel like a fool for being more concerned with their well being than they care for me.
Inner dialogue does eventually lead me to realizing that
just because someone is more selfish than I am, I should not compromise my
values and be any less caring of an individual. What I can do is change my
expectations of them and rely on their closeness a hell of a lot less. A
friendship and especially companionship is something I take very seriously and
I have always expected that what I put in I should receive in return.
With the holiday season here I am thinking about family,
friendships and love a lot more. I am very thankful for the friendships I have
and the life I live. I have endless opportunities ahead of me as long as I am
receptive to change, willing to try, open to new adventures and honest with
myself. I have friends who encourage and inspire me and I should tell them more
often that they do so. I should be more open with my feelings and let people
in.
I love hard. It is a fact. I used to want to change that
about myself, but no longer see it as a bad thing. If the right person is out
there for me, they must understand that about me and respect it. Communication
is everything. Relationships with people I care about and their lives and
experiences are more valuable and important to me than any material thing. Life
is worth living to the fullest, love is worth experiencing. It really isn’t a
bad thing to wear your heart on your sleeve and be open to new love. I think it
is not worth living a life where you are scared to take a step, controlled in
an old and comfortable routine. Life is a challenge to embrace, accept and challenge
back.
If you are my friend, new or old, you are someone I love deeply.
If you are someone I love, I care about you. If I didn’t show it enough this
year, I am sorry. I will do better next year. I promise.
Love hard. Live hard. Enjoy the ride.
